The Thought Occurs

Monday, 4 August 2025

THE DECOLONISED BREAK-UP

Location: Communal Beanbag Reflection Zone (formerly the library atrium)

Characters:

  • Kai (they/them): Majoring in Introspective Archaeology

  • River (she/fae): Double major in Restorative Narratives and Grief-Based Performance Art

  • Witness-Facilitator: Indigo (they/them): Emotional Infrastructure Peer Mediator

  • Emotional Weather: Drizzly. Inside and out.


ACT I: THE GATHERING

INDIGO (they/them)
Thank you both for arriving consensually into this difficult space. As per protocol, I will be present only as a mirror of relational truth, not a moderator. My clipboard is decorative.

KAI (they/them) (taking a deep breath)
River… I honour the story we co-authored in the archive of shared becoming. But I’ve been sitting with some ancestral murmuration, and I need to exit this entanglement before I start resenting your moon-based calendrical rituals.

RIVER (she/fae) (visibly quivering)
I appreciate the decentring of blame in your opening. I, too, have felt a distancing—not spatial, but in our shared affective circuitry. Your gaze has become increasingly neoliberal.


ACT II: SPEAKING THE SHIFT

KAI (they/them)
Lately, I’ve felt emotionally over-consumed. Like my nervous system is being monetised by your need for constant affirmation.

RIVER (she/fae)
That lands. I’ve sensed a withdrawal in your vibro-spiritual field. I tried to offer somatic repair through interpretive spooning, but you tensed.

KAI (they/them)
I did. Because I was holding space for my own ambiguity, and you mistook it for intimacy.

INDIGO (they/them)
Pause for breath. Let’s name the rupture without assigning narrative primacy.


ACT III: DECOLONISING THE ‘END’

RIVER (she/fae)
So… are we uncoupling, or just transitioning into a non-linear relational fractal?

KAI (they/them)
I’d prefer a diasporic dispersal of intimacy, where we re-encounter each other occasionally as emotionally sovereign co-witnesses.

RIVER (she/fae)
Then I release you. With grief, but not possession. You will remain archived in my shadow work.

KAI (they/them)
I’ll still tag you in posts about interdependence.


ACT IV: THE MUTUAL STATEMENT (MANDATORY)

INDIGO (they/them)
As per Office of Emotional Transparency guidelines, please recite the Joint Statement of Uncoupled Respect:

KAI & RIVER (in unison):

“We were never each other’s property, only shared weather systems.
We release this bond without dominion, blame, or Spotify password disputes.
May our next relational architectures be intersectionally affirmed.”


INDIGO (they/them)
Beautiful. Please accept these biodegradable wristbands marked Emotionally Composting as tokens of your transition.

KAI (they/them):
Does mine say “formerly entangled”?

RIVER (she/fae):
Mine says “no longer a fixed point.”


AFTERMATH: POST-BREAKUP SELF-CARE MENU (on the chalkboard)

  • Crying in soft focus (film student required)

  • Scream circle with ethical rage facilitators

  • Journaling from the perspective of your future plant

  • **Zine-making: 'We Were Never Monogamous With Time'

  • Ethically sourced rebound with someone who doesn’t know your moon sign yet